Strategies for Success Counseling and Wellness Center is on the Move!!!

We are very pleased to be able to continue to be a premier resource to the South East Valley Community for Counseling and Wellness services.  Our new location is a Wellness Center and will eventually offer all types of wellness services, including: Massage Therapy, Hair Services, Retreats, Acupuncture, Chiropractor Services and Physical Therapy in the near future.  Currently we provide individual, couple and family counseling, Small Business Employee Relations Consulting, EAP Counseling, Life Coaching, Seminars, and Department of Transportation/SAP services.

We are pleased to be able to offer most of these services at convenient times, as well as online.  All visits are by appointment only, however you can always ask for soonest available as new appointments pop-up all the time, often the same day.

We are so excited to announce that our Strategies for Success Counseling and Wellness Center Office has moved to the Sun Lakes Health Center located on the corner of Alma School and Riggs Road, at 10440 E. Riggs Road, Chandler AZ 85248, just 1 mile South of the current location. 

We look forward to seeing you very soon!

 

 

Our Thoughts of Care and Concern go to the Victims of Today’s Terror in San Bernardino

When witnessing an event with as much magnitude as on the news today as the terror attack in San Bernardino, CA, its time to stop what you are doing. PERIOD! Take a mental break, take a self assessment, drink some tea, well, you get the idea, no? Next, determine either on your own, or with someone you care about, how has this news, the vivd pictures on-line, and the ongoing feeds you have been reading impact you.  Do the images flash through your mind like a snapshot while carrying on throughout your regular routine?  Do the images appear when you lie down at night to go to sleep, making sleep nearly impossible, spurring racing thoughts through your mind? Ugh, let me sleep, you may be saying to yourself! Are you more irritable than usual, less motivated?

We all carry the burden of being human, which may cause you to experience a normal, albeit unpleasant and inhibiting reaction.  This is to have a normal response to an abnormal situation.  Let me say this again, as it is very important. Listen up, now:  You are having a NORMAL response to an abnormal situation.  It is normal to feel, to be emotional.

Word from the Wise Therapist…..expect to have a lingering sadness, anxiety or increased irritability following a major event for around 2 weeks or so.  After about 10 days, and your symptoms have not waned, set yourself up with one of our life coaches online, or schedule in person to get things in the mental department checked out and running like a well oiled machine.  It MUST be a priority for you to take care of you!(At least a weenie teeny teensy tiny little bit!!!)

Give those love ones a little bit of an extra hug and try to enjoy some quiet time together…carve out a little break for some rest and relaxation, and afford yourself the support you need, and seek help of a qualified professional to get you through the slump that you may be feeling.  Not only do you Deserve it, you actually need it, or it may linger longer than you may ever expect.

We here at Strategies for Success want to express our deepest thoughts and condolences to the victims and their families of the horror that occurred today in San Bernardino, California.  As I learn more about it, my heart feels heavy with despair.

Understanding The Nurtured Heart Approach

Heart made from handsBy Janine Stanley, Licensed Professional Counselor

I have been asked several times to explain this “Nurtured Heart Approach” by many friends, co-workers, parents and clients.  I often struggle to find my own words at times because it is represented in a visual image for me.  Imagine having the land to build your home, you have to start with building a foundation.  This in itself is a process, but you trust the contractors to follow your plan.   Some thoughts of all the things that could go wrong have already started but, you soon realize that you have created the time to attend all the meetings with the contractor; building a relationship and have set your expectations for this plan with creating boundaries on your blue print.  You then allow these “fear” based thoughts or negative thoughts to disappear creating a more positive outlook on what is being build.

Creating a new way to be in relationship with your child is much like I described above, you have to be willing to allow the negative to not have all the “power” in the relationship, you need to create more opportunities for the positive to shine in, and lastly you need to set the clear expectations which allow for the relationship to grow.

Once the foundation is poured only then can you allow the framing to begin.

According to difficultchild.com, “The Nurtured Heart Approach® is a set of core methodologies originally developed for working with the most difficult children. It has become a powerful way of bringing inner wealth to all children while facilitating parenting and classroom success. It has a proven, transformative impact on every child, including those with behavioral diagnosis such as ADHD, Autism, Asperger’s Syndrome, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and Reactive Attachment Disorder – almost always without the need for medications or long-term treatment.” 

Howard Glasser is the founder of the Children’s Success Foundation and creator of the Nurtured Heart Approach® which has been used in hundreds of thousands of homes and classrooms around the world.”

CORE METHODOLOGIES: THE THREE STANDS

  • Neutralize Negative Behavior (“Don’t energize the bunny- take the batteries out”)
  • Energize Positive Behavior in Meaningful Ways (“Create the relationship that honors you and your child and allow for time-in)
  • Demonstrate Fair and Consistent Boundaries (“Create limits for transformation”)

Some of the many BENEFITS OF NURTURED HEART APPROACH

  1. Understand the uniqueness of the challenging child in the here & now
  2. Teaching a child to “Shift” or “flip” his/her intensity in successful ways
  3. Create a deeper sense relationship by allowing by building success & inner wealth for the child
  4. Identifying behavior that is working by feeding the soul with greatness this is not complimenting and feeding empty words
  5. Teaching a child to be Fearless in standing in their own Greatness

My good friend Sherry Blair, another Nurtured Heart Trainer and author wrote the following practice exercise, try it!

Nurtured Heart Greatness Practice: Stop now and notice yourself. What in this moment do you notice just by answering the above statements? Go ahead and notice TGT (Three Greatness Things). Create a sentence as if you were describing it to a blind person or as if you took a picture of yourself.

Now let’s notch that up. We are going to add some values and character strengths to the three statements above. For each statement above, answer the question “What does this show about me?” or “What value or strength am I showing?” For example, “I notice I completed this exercise. That shows my ability to focus and concentrate.”

http://positivitypulse.com/category/nurtured-heart-approach/

I love how she states “create a sentence as if you were describing it to a blind person…”  This allows me to stop and think which words would I choose?  Does a blind person understand color?  I have to dig deeper than describing myself on the surface, this is something most of us struggle to do, to stop and recognize most things around us on a deeper level.  Almost too afraid to stand in our own greatness and allow others to truly “see” us from the inside.  The word “positive” has some mixed feelings for some of us and sometimes it appears to be overused.  Again, I would challenge you to see that creating positivity is about creating relationship that is not at the surface level.

If I take us back to the image I created with you in the beginning the house please remember, once the foundation is completed, you allow the framing to begin. I will share with you these next steps as we continue to build the home of your dreams!

For more information n NHA: http://www.childrenssuccessfoundation.com

Article: Self Esteem and Anxiety in Teens

When people ask me, who do I see in my practice, it seems to go in cycles.  Lately, I  have been seeing a lot of teens for a whole host of issues, mainly surrounding the issue of anxiety.  With so many pressures within social, academic and family realms, it kind of seems like a reasonable response to me.  It is crucial to validate your teen’s feelings, allow them to express their emotions, then follow it up with some problem solving. Try to be patient, and don’t feel the need to “fix” it to avoid potential emotional response.  Your kids need a safe outlet, and home is the best place they can totally be themselves.   Here’s a helpful article to continue to learn more about this topic: http://www.empoweringparents.com/Self-Esteem-And-Anxiety-In-Teens.php?&key=Adolescent-And-Teen-Behavior

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