New Counselor Starts in March

Curriculum vitaeStrategies for Success is excited to welcome Regina Robison to the practice starting March 23, 2015. Regina’s strengths as a clinician include being compassionate, non-judgmental, and utilizes a strengths-based approach to care. She believes it is important to look at each individual as a whole, taking into account each person’s spiritual, cultural, and environmental influences to assist clients in overcoming problems and achieve balance and happiness in their lives. Regina also believes that it is essential for people to work through past trauma in order to release residual blame and shame and break free of old patterns that can keep them stuck in maladaptive thinking and behavioral patterns in their current life stage.

Regina’s clinical experience includes over 10 years working with children, adolescents, adults, elderly and clients with disabilities. She also has experience working with individuals and couples, providing treatment for mental health issues and substance abuse concerns as well as with conduct disorder, depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, grief and loss, and relationship conflicts, to name a few. Regina has also led multiple groups on topics that include self-esteem building, anger management, social skill building, substance abuse and conflict resolution, and is excited about the possibility of leading some groups at Strategies for Success.  She has worked from a Multisystemic approach successfully,  with seriously delinquent adolescents, and is very well versed with adolescent and family concerns.
In 2008, Regina received her Master of Arts Degree in Professional Counseling from Ottawa University in Phoenix, and her Bachelors of Arts in Psychology from Arizona State University in 2004, Magna Cum Laude.  She currently holds independent Licensure with the Arizona Board of Behavioral Health, as a Licensed Professional Counselor.
Regina utilizes various therapeutic approaches to assist clients in achieving their goals including cognitive behavioral therapy, brief solution-focused therapy, existential therapy, insight-oriented modalities and narrative therapy. Regina is a firm believer  in the healing power of the client-therapist relationship. Each treatment plan is created and implemented collaboratively with each client, tailored to maximize positive outcomes and lasting results. To email Regina, please do so at regina.robison@saptherapist.com. To schedule with Regina starting at the end of March in our Chandler location, please call our Main Number: (480) 252-5152 or email us at appointment@saptherapist.com.

The Holidays, Children And Divorce – 5 Things To Do And 5 Things Not To Do During The Holidays

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A journalist recently interviewed me to discuss the most important things to keep in mind during the holidays after divorce if you have children, and the following suggestions were my recommendations:

 

 

 

 

5 Things to Do:

  1. Be sensitive to the fact that your children are looking forward to the holidays with you and also with your ex. Do not take it personally that children like to spend time with both parents. Create new or continue old holiday traditions to make your children feel good about the holidays.
  2. Do coordinate big gifts with your Ex. There is nothing like the letdown of both of you getting your child the same big gift. It is a letdown for both the parent and the child and is completely avoidable by communication between both parents.
  3. Do send a card to your Ex’s family if you are close to them. It is natural to still have feelings for them if you were close emotionally to them. However, do not say anything derisive or negative about your ex in the card.
  4. Call a truce with your Ex in the spirit of the holidays if you do not have a mutually respectful relationship or still harbor animosity toward them. The holidays are a time to transform anger and to have goodwill to all men (and women)… even if that includes your ex.
  5. Do take care of your self during the holidays. Take time to de-stress in healthy ways (exercise, massage, good nutrition, refrain from over-indulging in food or alcohol). If the children are not with you over the holidays, then plan to do something that would be fun and nurturing rather than sitting at home and being miserable.

5 Things Not to Do: 

  1. Do not compete with your Ex to out-do in gift-giving; it only spoils the children and makes everyone feel uncomfortable (including the children).
  2. Do not punish the children for having a good time with your Ex or sharing stories of the good times they had at your ex’s home. Don’t you want your children to have good memories of their holidays? They have a good time with you too and are also sharing that with your ex. Your children need to feel happy and loved in both homes and not be made to feel guilty about it.
  3. Do not send a mean card to either your Ex or your ex’s family. If you can’t say something nice (especially during the holidays), then don’t send anything at all.
  4. Do not tell your children how lonely you are when they are not with you over the holidays. It is NOT fair to make your children feel responsible for your feelings, thoughts or behaviors. We are very powerful in our choices, and we can either choose to be miserable or choose to be happy. After all, the adults were the ones who chose to get a divorce. The children just have to deal with the situation.
  5. Do not over-extend your self over the holiday with attempts to be super-parent to outdo your ex (by volunteering in the school, with sports team, or community parties).

(originally posted by DocTracy)

Research Reveals How Kids Learn From ‘Sex-Saturated’ Online Culture

by Kurt Wagner

Article and Image from Mashable

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Is YouTube America’s new sex-ed teacher? It’s starting to look that way.

New research from author and clinical psychologist Catherine Steiner-Adair has found many teens are turning to Internet videos to educate themselves on topics relating to sexual health, including sexuality, dating, and gender stereotypes.

Societal norms around sex and dating — especially among teens — have changed dramatically in the last few years, says Steiner-Adair, and most of the change can be chalked up to a “sex-saturated culture” and the technology used to propagate it.

Teens may not even realize they are learning when they log in to social media sites or watch viral videos on YouTube. Often they are simply observing a sexually-charged culture that society has numbed to, says Steiner-Adair.

Steiner-Adair’s research is highlighted in her new book, The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, which hit shelves Tuesday. The project started four years ago when she became concerned with how people were relating to one another through technology and social media.

She has since interviewed over 1,000 children between the ages of 4 and 18, plus 1,000 parents and teachers.

Without parents monitoring what their children view online, Internet access provides teens and children with content that can be confusing, including porn or other graphic images that can create a false understanding of appropriate sexual behavior.

This confusion encourages teens in particular to behave a particular way online that they never would in face-to-face interactions, says Stenier-Adair. “[There is] a disconnect between who kids are in their heart of hearts and who they are online,” she explains. “It’s as if kids have two different selves.”

Today’s youth hasn’t simply grown up with technology at its fingertips, it turns out. They have used technology to expedite the growth process. A 2010 Pew Internet study [PDF] found that 17% of teens went to the Internet to gather sexual health information that was “hard to discuss with others.”

The result of this unintended online education and increase in social media use has been inappropriate sexual behavior among children, even as young as elementary school.

“Flirting” has transformed from a harmless note in class (“Do you like me: yes or no?”) to more aggressive texts or social media messages, in some cases even explicit photos, says Steiner-Adair.

A February report from the Urban Institute [PDF] found that 25% of dating teens have been abused or harassed online or in text messages by their partner — not including cases where harassment came from someone not involved in the relationship.

In one focus group during her research, Steiner-Adair met a 13-year-old who asked why women like being choked while having sex. The boy was basing his question on a YouTube video he’d seen. In other instances, children as young as 8 years old have imitated pornography at school, again prompted by online videos. “There’s been really radical change in the last couple years with how boys and girls are flirting and courting,” says Steiner-Adair. “We have lost the barriers to protect childhood.”

One of the more surprising elements of Steiner-Adair’s research is that boys often fail to realize they are acting inappropriately when they are degrading to girls or use abusive language — they think they’re flirting.Too often, “you grow up and join the dominant culture,” she says — a culture that YouTube mirrors, warts and all.

The negative impact this type of behavior has on girls is often studied. But Steiner-Adair says that boys are hurt by it, too, feeling trapped and pressured to behave in ways that rid them of their natural sweetness.”[Simply] saying ‘boys will be boys’ is abandoning the rich, inner lives of young men,” she says.

 

50 Best Back-to-School Articles for Parents

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Article from www.rootsofaction.com

In addition to getting your student ready, back-to-school is also a time when most parents revisit strategies that help support their children during the academic year.

What’s your parenting mindset at back-to-school time, or anytime?

As a writer and researcher with a passion for positive youth development, I regularly connect with educators and psychologists who write superb articles for parents.

These authors share the latest thinking and research on learning, achievement, family well-being, parent engagement, special needs children, youth sports, media, technology, discipline, homework, bullying, and much more.

As your children get back-to-school and resettled into their routines, take some time for yourself – to reflect on your own values about education and how you can more intentionally support your children.  I’ve compiled what I believe are some of the best back-to-school articles for parents – from a variety of reputable bloggers. The list is divided by topic and I’ve put a short summary of what you will find in each one.

Read what piques your interest now and bookmark others for later.  And if you like particular authors, be sure to follow their articles throughout the school year by signing up for their RSS feeds or email subscriptions.  If you use social media, I’ve included links to their Twitter accounts and Facebook Pages to make following easy.

I guarantee you’ll find some meaningful food for thought here – whether it’s back-to-school time or anytime! And you’ll also meet some great people who support children’s positive growth and well-being. Happy reading!

Learning & Achievement

1. Teaching Beyond The Transmission of Knowledgeby Miguel Angel Escotet, Ph.D.  Parents are teachers too! Understand the educational philosophy of teaching to the test vs. teaching to the heart. Twitter

2. The Developmental Psychologists’ Back-to-School Shopping List by Gabrielle Principe, Ph.D. atPsychology Today. Five ways to improve children’s learning at all ages, grounded in scientific research.

3. Kindergarten Academics: What To Expect by Patti Ghezzi at SchoolFamily. Learn how kindergarten has changed and how new academic standards will affect your child. Twitter; Facebook Page

4. A Link Between Relatedness and Academic Achievement by Ugo Uche, LPC, at Psychology Today. The key to student success relies not just with teacher’s attitudes toward students but also with the student’s attitude towards the teacher. Parents help develop these attitudes! Twitter

5. Happiness in the Classroom by Jessica Lahey.  A middle-school teacher’s tips for classroom happiness apply beautifully to parents too! Pass this one onto your child’s teacher! Twitter

6. Seven Ways to Encourage Reluctant Readers by Steve Reifman, M.Ed.  A teacher’s strategies can turn your child from a reluctant to a willing reader. Try them out! TwitterFacebook Page

7. Boys and Girls Learn Differently by Patti Ghezzi at SchoolFamily. Get insights on how to help your son or daughter at home and in the classroom. Twitter; Facebook Page

8. The Success Myth by Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D., at Psychology Today. Rethink your ideas of what makes us succeed. Then apply them to your parenting. Twitter

Family Well-Being

9. It Isn’t Easy Being a Parent by the Search Institute. Nine strategies every parent should know based on fostering developmental assets in children. Twitter;Facebook Page

10. The Happy Teen: A Primer on the Positives in Youth Development by Stephen Gray Wallace, M.S.Ed. at Psychology Today. Read some good news about adolescent development.

11. Growing Empathy by Jody McVittie, M.D. atSoundDiscipline. How to see the world through children’s eyes, without judgement. Twitter;Facebook Page

12. Resisting Raising Children Who Feel Entitled by Jan Faull, M.Ed. at ParentNet Unplugged. How NOT to indulge your child’s every want. TwitterFacebook Page

13. Four Tips for Having a Happier Family, by Joe Wilner at PsychCentral. How to deepen family bonds. TwitterFacebook Page

14. The Seven Best Gratitude Quotes by Melanie A. Greenberg, Ph.D., at Psychology Today. How to bring gratitude into your family’s life. TwitterFacebook Page

15. Are Parents Setting Kids Up for Failure by Pushing Too Hard for Success? By Lylah M. Alphonse at Yahoo Shine. Tips from Madeline Levine’s new book, “Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success.” Twitter; Facebook Page

16. Five Lessons Our Kids Don’t Learn in School For Success in Life by Jennifer Owens at HuffPost Parents. Parents play a big role in teaching children how to succeed in life! Learn how. Twitter

17. Six Ways to Let Your Child’s Genius Out by Marjie Knudsen at The Oregonian. Learn how to support your child’s learning – for a lifetime! Twitter

18. Healthy Parenting after the Marriage Ends by Kevin D. Arnold, Ph.D., at Psychology Today.  How to support your children’s social, emotional and intellectual health after divorce. Twitter

 

Read more here: http://www.rootsofaction.com/50-best-back-to-school-articles-for-parents/

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